Team building is an important and somewhat routine practice in most institutions. Human resources and management always encourage “team work” and “team strategies;” and let’s be honest we WANT to feel part of a team. It is a comforting place to be. We feel supported and encouraged and valued when we belong to a cohesive team. So- is that how you feel? Supported? Encouraged? Valued? If the answer is yes- then great! You have a great team. If the answers were no- then most likely you are part of a group.
I wish I could say I am part of a team at my school. With my speech partners- yes I am part of a team. With most of my teachers – yes I am part of a team. Then there are those couple of what I delicately call “stragglers.” They are the ones that take a lot of time to warm up and open up. They make me feel like I am working BESIDE them and not WITH them. I am only a part of their group. *Sigh* But don’t lose heart! Being the communications minor that I am, I am diligently working on these couple of “rocks.” Here are my 5 strategies…
- Kill them with Kindness– no matter how much negativity someone puts out in the world, I do not think it is right to return negativity back. No one can force me to fight fire with fire and I do not want people to ever see me like that. You choose your own actions and reactions.
- Learn about their Love Language– I am a firm believer in love languages. If you find out what love language they are they might be able to understand your good intentions better.
- Keep Trying– persistence is key. It expresses two very important things. It says that you try and keep trying against all odds. It also conveys dedication-which speaks to people as well.
- Take a Stand– make your mind up that you are going to like this person no matter what. A positive mindset can change how you look at someone and how your actions are seen by that person as well. I have found that a negative thought can be read on my face from a mile away.
- Share your Goals– make it clear that you are on the same side and have the same goals as them. You are both there to help educate children. A job which cannot be taken lightly.
I will keep you posted on my progress. If you have any suggestions please comment.